Growth vs. Fixed Mindset

In terms of growing, changing, and becoming better for yourself there are three change "powers" that need to happen and Imma about to break down the three for you. Let's chat about the first one shall we? Pull up a chair. Grab some popcorn and listen up.

Have you ever thought to yourself (after trying to make a new habit stick) "I can't do this. I will always be this dumb." or, "I'm so fat. I cannot get stronger. I should just give up now- nothing is working." or even, "I will never be as pretty, funny, strong, or smart as her/him"?

Guess what sweetie, we've all been there.

Even me. I struggle with this every single day. It is hard. It is exhausting. For example the other night I was laying in bed talking to Jake- and we got talking about health, our bodies, etc and I started crying. I was stuck in such a fixed mindset. I kept telling him how disgusting I was. How I have tried and tried and tried to get stronger but nothing was working. I was unhappy with myself. I was stuck in this mindset.

Carol S. Dweck a professor of Psychology at Stanford University and the author of the book "Mindset: The New Psychology of Success". Talks about this!! She talks about FIXED VS GROWTH MINDSET. 

She discusses that people fall within two mindsets according to their belief about where ability comes from. 

GROWTH AND FIXED MINSET

She says that in a Fixed Mindset: "Students (or people) believe that their basic abilities, intelligence, talents, are just fixed traits. They have a certain amount and that's that. Then their goal becomes to look smart all the time and never look dumb".

In a growth mindset: "Students (or people) understand that their talents and abilities can be developed through effort, good teaching, and persistence. They don't necessarily think everyone's the same or anyone can be Einstein, but they believe everyone can get smarter if they work at it."

Basically in the dumbed down version or the way I understand it is- fixed mindset = NEGATIVE SELF TALK. You can never change. You always be the way you are. You can never be mentally healthy, physically healthy, spiritually healthy, etc. Growth mindset = POSITIVE SELF TALK. You CAN change. You CAN create new habits, new skills, new mindsets. 

So if you're stuck in a fixed mindset... 

HOW DO YOU CHANGE IT??

Well first things first...

IT TAKES EFFORT. It will not happen overnight. You have to tell yourself that. If you fail the first day at changing mindsets- don't think you can never get it because - thinking like that is a fixed mindset. Pick yourself up again and keep going. 

But there are two tricks to help you out in changing the way you think. Changing your mindset from fixed to G R O W T H. They are...

1. Recognize it. Recognize when you are having those negative thoughts. What's triggering it? Is it a situation? Is it people? Is it food? Why are those things triggers? Listen and observe yourself. Is this a growth mindset or a fixed mindset? 

2. Talk back to it. - weird right? I know. But, when you are starting to talk to yourself in a negative way- talk back to it. Realize that- Hey.. This is not going to help me. I CAN figure this out. It IS okay that I enjoy chocolates. It is okay that I didn't run as long or as fast as I wanted to. I will be stronger tomorrow, etc. It is weird at first but once you get the hang of it, it really does help. 

Here are some examples of talking back to a fixed mindset:

Instead of: "She's so smart. I will never be that smart."

TRY: "I'm going to figure out how she does it."

Instead of: "I'm not good at this."

TRY: "What am I missing?"

Instead of: "I'm awesome at this."

TRY: "I'm on the right track."

Instead of: "I can't make this any better."

TRY: "I can always improve. So I will keep trying."

In this day and age (haha I sound so old), it is so easy and "funny" to talk negative to ourselves. BUT. Does it help? No!!!! I am the pot calling the kettle black or whatever the saying is... because guess what? I DO THIS ALL THE TIME AND IT IS SO HARD TO RECOGNIZE IT SOMETIMES!!! But, I am trying. That is what is important. I am trying to change the way I think about myself and about what I am doing. It is not all about my physical health like I talked about in my last post. It is more than that. Change Powers matter and this is the first one. YOUR MINDSET COUNTS. We can do this. It will take time. But we can do it. 

10 DIMENSIONS OF WELLNESS.

When you hear someone say "Oh I need to be Healthier." What do you think? Well, I used to think I just need to exercise and eat better. But that is just a SMALL part of it.

Being healthy - or overall wellness is not just physical and nutritional. There are 10 DIMENSIONS of wellness.

Let's break them down...

1. PHYSICAL: Obviously you all know what that entails. Structured exercise, and active lifestyle practice.

2. NUTRITIONAL: Making good nutrient dense food choices!! Also establishing and maintaining a healthy weight (whatever that may be for you!)

3. MEDICAL AND DENTAL: Making sure you are going to your regular doctor and dentists appointments? Are you adhering to prevention, treatment recommendations from your doctor, dentist or other healthcare provider and following established guidelines?

4. SOCIAL: Enjoying family, friends and having good social support and cohesion. If not- take a step back and adjust your friend group. It is also okay to not talk to some family members if they make your mental health- unstable.

5. ENVIRONMENTAL: Creating a personal space to enhance well-being, being a steward of natural resources in the world. Are you picking up trash and putting it in the correct bins? Are you creating a space that is good and healthy?

6. SPIRITUAL: Identifying your core values, identity, and purpose, and living in alignment with them.

7. BEHAVIORAL AND INTELLECTUAL: Make sure you are doing things that have a positive impact on life, exploring new ideas, learning new skills. Using safety gear and avoiding harmful behaviors.

8. PSYCHOLOGICAL AND EMOTIONAL: Coping, managing stress, problem solving, and creating good decision making habits.

9. OCCUPATIONAL: Engaging in meaningful and rewarding activities (job and hobbies), and addressing personal interests, skills, and performance satisfaction.

10. FINANCIAL: Planning and saving, managing cash and credit accounts and financial risk.

...WOOF. See!! I told you that there is a lot that goes into Wellness. It is NOT JUST ABOUT YOUR OUTER APPEARANCE AND WHAT YOU FEED YOUR BODY. It is so much more than that!

I definitely know that I have room to improve on some of these dimensions. They all influence each other in some way. Just because you are good in physical and nutritional does NOT mean you are good at social, spiritual and behavioral/intellectual. You could be slacking!! We need to have balance in all dimensions. Its hard and it takes practice but let's do it together!

IM ALIVE AND WELL.

Holy crap. I have not written on this blog in almost a year. Life got busy thats for sure. Just a little update for all you readers (cause I know there are soooooo many):

• I'M A MARRIED WOMAN. Woooohhooooooo!!!!! Im now Madison Groesbeck!! (Pronounced "gross-beck"). I've been married for 5 months and its been the best. Its crazy how fast these 5 months have flown by. Jake proposed in September and we got married December 29th, 2018.

proposal on September 16th, 2018.

Wedding Day, December 29th, 2018.

• I'M A COLLEGE GRADUATE. I graduated (officially) in December with my Bachelors of Science in Public Health. I walked in July but officially completed my undergrad in December. It's weird to be graduated honestly and still live in Rexburg but I love it. 

• I have a full time job at Grand Peaks Medical in Rexburg as their Patient Care Coordinator. Now- some of you are probably wondering what the heck is a patient care coordinator?? Basically I make sure all of our high risk patients (and not high risk) get the best care they need. If they get referred to a specialist- I make sure they are scheduled and have all the information they need. If they have diabetes and need education? I'm your gal! If you have needs for resources in the community? I'm your gal. If you want to lose weight but don't know how? I'm your gal. I wear many hats and I love it. I love working on care plans, I love helping patients and making them feel comfortable and that they are taken care of. 

• I'm a certified Lifestyle Coach for Diabetes and I'm also a certified Wellness coach. I had to get certified and do hours of training as part of my job when I got hired. But, I LOVE IT because its right up my alley on what I studied in my undergrad. It is also right up my alley-ish on what I want to go on and further study- Nutrition!! 

That is pretty much all the life updates you need from me. Jake is a full time student studying to apply for PT school. We're going to Hawaii in a week with his family and.. that is pretty much it. Life is GOOD. It is officially JUNE! 

Now, Im going to do a tad bit of editing on what the heck my blog is going to be about now. It will still be my online journal but... different. I'm going to be posting a lot about Health & Wellness. Why? Because that is something I am very passionate about and something I want to be more vocal about. People think to be healthy- you just have to exercise and eat nutrient dense food. No. thats not everything. There are 10 dimensions of wellness that goes into if a person is "healthy" or not and I want to talk about those on here. Not just for you but for me. I want to talk about what it takes to help you accomplish your goals. How to stay on track with good habits you want to stick with. I have struggled all my life with an unhealthy relationship with food and myself. I have anxiety and struggle with depression sometimes. I have even struggled with an eating disorder. I take medicine for it but it's still something you have to deal with every day. I am far from perfect. But, I want to be better. I want to share my progress on here with you for myself. Maybe someone will benefit from it. Maybe they will learn something. WHO KNOWS. But, it is here if you want it and if you need it. 

LETS DO THIS THING.